Taking inspiration from my distances in relationships post some time ago, now I would like to write some of my thoughts about the aspect of Trust in a relationship experience. In my judgment trust and commitment are the foundations in a relationship and thus indispensable.
Trust itself is hard to come about, especially for those partners whom have experienced many hurts in the past. As children we learn to trust our parents but trust always takes time to develop and come to a level where both parties can function effectively together.
In the same way, in a dating or other type of relationship, trust, needs its own time to develop and grow. Despite the fact that your partner may have a great level of trust in you, that does not mean that it will always stay the same, especially when its foundations are based on naivete or just sheer denial of reality.
The fact is that as we grow we become more and more self-aware and this awareness grows toward our partner as well. We learn and get to know them better. Then distances or other aspects of the relationship, which at first were not a major hindrance, suddenly start to gain more of our attention even to the point of becoming completely unbearable.
But no matter their size, these things start to affect our trust in the person and cause us to loose that genuine and very enjoyable aspect of any relationship’s closeness. Basically, we start to detach ourselves in different way. It can be just our feelings and emotions, but the truth is that lack of trust affects everything.
Anyway, enough about loosing trust, what about gaining it, maintaining it?
Well, trust in a relationship is a long term investment. Almost everything that we do and we are, affects the condition of that investment. Sometimes, its not even how many things you do, that affects it, as much as what kinds of things you do and who you are that affects the level of trust in a relationship.
Personally, I am fully convinced that trust first of all a product of who you are in the relationship, but it does not hurt to employee those right attitudes and actions to help things improve.
Trust can be conveyed and strengthened through honest and regular communication between partners. When both partners get together regularly to talk, discuss and work through different issues facing the relationship and they do this purposefully, then they both gain the trust of each other.
